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Workpost 41: Enjoy Yourself
Today I did a long breathwork meditation session after feeling extremely stressed out about three questions:
- Should I sign up for jiujitsu again?
- Should I do coaching again?
- Should I continue therapy?
And all the worrying stressful sub questions:
- What about the money for jiujitsu
- Jiujitsu is so hard to get good at
- People might not buy my coaching if I didn’t do something really big
- Therapy costs so much money is it worth it?
And after the meditation, one thing was clear to me. The answer to everything: take everything so much less serious. Have fun!!!
If you have fun doing jiujitsu, sign up for it, go to classes when you feel like it. Have an amazing time doing work. If you love coaching, do it whether or not people believe that you are a good coach or not.
Enjoy yourself. Indulge yourself in boba while working. Take breaks to play on the piano, to draw.
P.S. I did sign up for jiujitsu, and I intend to have fun learning tons of new martial arts.
How To Succeed At Really Difficult Stuff
I was pondering today on the subject of doing anything really really difficult and I came across a realization.
People often go after really difficult stuff in the wrong way. By difficult things I mean anything that has a high degree of complexity and a steep learning curve. This might be mastering a new skill like the piano, playing a difficult game, getting big on youtube, or starting a new business.
People often try to get results too quickly. They immediately try to focus on success instead of having fun and its not productive. They move into what I call the “WORK” phase too fast. The “WORK” phase is characterized by the following:
- You are doing something “for real”. This can mean trying to make a business profitable or striking it out for real as a professional YouTuber.
- You want to execute a game plan for success. Success is a major focus, and failure is going to cost you something.
Instead of jumping into the “WORK” phase, with ANYTHING with a high degree of difficulty, you need to first go through a “LEARNING” phase.
This “LEARNING” phase is characterized by a couple of things:
- You have to be completely ok with failing and failing badly and over and over.
- You should focus exclusively on finding what you like about the thing you are doing (having fun).
- Exploring the thing, feeling out foundations should be the focus.
This is because success requires two things:
- Solid fundamentals borne from experience and mastery of the fundamentals
- Huge amounts of motivation due to the amount of hardship and failure you will experience.
The problem is, the “WORK” phase, when you have to perform and get results (make money off of your new business idea, perform on the piano, gain rank in the game) usually is not very fun. It is hard to build a good foundation or get motivation when you are so scared of failing.
The solution is clearly to not skip the “LEARNING” phase. Make sure you REALLY REALLY love the thing first, that you have tons and tons of fun, that you start to succeed without even trying before you start to TRY to perform when you switch over to the “WORK” phase. Maybe this means you start to make money off of the business you started, without even thinking about the business plan, or you start to rise in rank without even trying.
The key part of the “LEARNING” phase is fun. Finding what you like about something is probably one of the most critical ingredients to success because motivation can pretty much overcome ANY obstacle.
Finding fun is both simple and difficult. Simple because all you need to do, is think about what makes you happy. Difficult because it is sometimes hard to pin down what makes you happy. You have to try many things. For me, letting yourself fail, is critical to having fun. With too much pressure, there is absolutely no room for play. I start every endeavor with the mantra, “I accept failure, it is ok/good to let myself fail”.
Workpost 41: Enjoy Yourself
Today I did a long breathwork meditation session after feeling extremely stressed out about three questions:
- Should I sign up for jiujitsu again?
- Should I do coaching again?
- Should I continue therapy?
And all the worrying stressful sub questions:
- What about the money for jiujitsu
- Jiujitsu is so hard to get good at
- People might not buy my coaching if I didn’t do something really big
- Therapy costs so much money is it worth it?
And after the meditation, one thing was clear to me. The answer to everything: take everything so much less serious. Have fun!!!
If you have fun doing jiujitsu, sign up for it, go to classes when you feel like it. Have an amazing time doing work. If you love coaching, do it whether or not people believe that you are a good coach or not.
Enjoy yourself. Indulge yourself in boba while working. Take breaks to play on the piano, to draw.
P.S. I did sign up for jiujitsu, and I intend to have fun learning tons of new martial arts.
How To Succeed At Really Difficult Stuff
I was pondering today on the subject of doing anything really really difficult and I came across a realization.
People often go after really difficult stuff in the wrong way. By difficult things I mean anything that has a high degree of complexity and a steep learning curve. This might be mastering a new skill like the piano, playing a difficult game, getting big on youtube, or starting a new business.
People often try to get results too quickly. They immediately try to focus on success instead of having fun and its not productive. They move into what I call the “WORK” phase too fast. The “WORK” phase is characterized by the following:
- You are doing something “for real”. This can mean trying to make a business profitable or striking it out for real as a professional YouTuber.
- You want to execute a game plan for success. Success is a major focus, and failure is going to cost you something.
Instead of jumping into the “WORK” phase, with ANYTHING with a high degree of difficulty, you need to first go through a “LEARNING” phase.
This “LEARNING” phase is characterized by a couple of things:
- You have to be completely ok with failing and failing badly and over and over.
- You should focus exclusively on finding what you like about the thing you are doing (having fun).
- Exploring the thing, feeling out foundations should be the focus.
This is because success requires two things:
- Solid fundamentals borne from experience and mastery of the fundamentals
- Huge amounts of motivation due to the amount of hardship and failure you will experience.
The problem is, the “WORK” phase, when you have to perform and get results (make money off of your new business idea, perform on the piano, gain rank in the game) usually is not very fun. It is hard to build a good foundation or get motivation when you are so scared of failing.
The solution is clearly to not skip the “LEARNING” phase. Make sure you REALLY REALLY love the thing first, that you have tons and tons of fun, that you start to succeed without even trying before you start to TRY to perform when you switch over to the “WORK” phase. Maybe this means you start to make money off of the business you started, without even thinking about the business plan, or you start to rise in rank without even trying.
The key part of the “LEARNING” phase is fun. Finding what you like about something is probably one of the most critical ingredients to success because motivation can pretty much overcome ANY obstacle.
Finding fun is both simple and difficult. Simple because all you need to do, is think about what makes you happy. Difficult because it is sometimes hard to pin down what makes you happy. You have to try many things. For me, letting yourself fail, is critical to having fun. With too much pressure, there is absolutely no room for play. I start every endeavor with the mantra, “I accept failure, it is ok/good to let myself fail”.
Workpost 41: Enjoy Yourself
Today I did a long breathwork meditation session after feeling extremely stressed out about three questions:
- Should I sign up for jiujitsu again?
- Should I do coaching again?
- Should I continue therapy?
And all the worrying stressful sub questions:
- What about the money for jiujitsu
- Jiujitsu is so hard to get good at
- People might not buy my coaching if I didn’t do something really big
- Therapy costs so much money is it worth it?
And after the meditation, one thing was clear to me. The answer to everything: take everything so much less serious. Have fun!!!
If you have fun doing jiujitsu, sign up for it, go to classes when you feel like it. Have an amazing time doing work. If you love coaching, do it whether or not people believe that you are a good coach or not.
Enjoy yourself. Indulge yourself in boba while working. Take breaks to play on the piano, to draw.
P.S. I did sign up for jiujitsu, and I intend to have fun learning tons of new martial arts.
How To Succeed At Really Difficult Stuff
I was pondering today on the subject of doing anything really really difficult and I came across a realization.
People often go after really difficult stuff in the wrong way. By difficult things I mean anything that has a high degree of complexity and a steep learning curve. This might be mastering a new skill like the piano, playing a difficult game, getting big on youtube, or starting a new business.
People often try to get results too quickly. They immediately try to focus on success instead of having fun and its not productive. They move into what I call the “WORK” phase too fast. The “WORK” phase is characterized by the following:
- You are doing something “for real”. This can mean trying to make a business profitable or striking it out for real as a professional YouTuber.
- You want to execute a game plan for success. Success is a major focus, and failure is going to cost you something.
Instead of jumping into the “WORK” phase, with ANYTHING with a high degree of difficulty, you need to first go through a “LEARNING” phase.
This “LEARNING” phase is characterized by a couple of things:
- You have to be completely ok with failing and failing badly and over and over.
- You should focus exclusively on finding what you like about the thing you are doing (having fun).
- Exploring the thing, feeling out foundations should be the focus.
This is because success requires two things:
- Solid fundamentals borne from experience and mastery of the fundamentals
- Huge amounts of motivation due to the amount of hardship and failure you will experience.
The problem is, the “WORK” phase, when you have to perform and get results (make money off of your new business idea, perform on the piano, gain rank in the game) usually is not very fun. It is hard to build a good foundation or get motivation when you are so scared of failing.
The solution is clearly to not skip the “LEARNING” phase. Make sure you REALLY REALLY love the thing first, that you have tons and tons of fun, that you start to succeed without even trying before you start to TRY to perform when you switch over to the “WORK” phase. Maybe this means you start to make money off of the business you started, without even thinking about the business plan, or you start to rise in rank without even trying.
The key part of the “LEARNING” phase is fun. Finding what you like about something is probably one of the most critical ingredients to success because motivation can pretty much overcome ANY obstacle.
Finding fun is both simple and difficult. Simple because all you need to do, is think about what makes you happy. Difficult because it is sometimes hard to pin down what makes you happy. You have to try many things. For me, letting yourself fail, is critical to having fun. With too much pressure, there is absolutely no room for play. I start every endeavor with the mantra, “I accept failure, it is ok/good to let myself fail”.