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Workpost 43: Resilience (17 Questions)
Byjack
My questions:
- How to find a good business partner?
- How to live an entrepreneur/unemployed life?
- How to approach taxes as an entrepreneur?
- How to approach risk?
- How to build a support system?
- How to handle rejection?
- How to approach financial risk in a smart way?
- How to rebuild from nothing?
- How to deal with people looking down on you?
- How to get hired/search for a job?
- How to turn off work?
- How to minimize work effort/stress/inefficiency?
- How to process awkwardness?
- What are different selling methods?
- How to sell in a way that I feel myself?
- How to gain from/work with/ benefit from the American system?
- How can I be more resilient?
My intuitive answers to the questions:
How to find a good business partner?
- Write down what the ideal business is like
- Imagine all your favorite parts
- Imagine all the parts you need help with
- Write down your values
- Think about where a person like this (values + good in the areas you are weak + interest in your business area) would like to do/hangs out
- Ask close friends if they know someone like this
How to live an entrepreneur/unemployed life?
- They are different questions
- For the entrepreneur
- Without a company, you need to build a company around you
- Need to hire help/services to help automate different parts of life
- For the unemployed
- Now is the time to look for help
- Look into government assistance, help from family and friends
- To decide which one you are:
- Unemployed when you no longer have ability to make money
- If you have savings + some cashflow you are an entrepreneur
- If you have no savings and negative cashflow, you are unemployed
- You can be an entrepreneur and still work a job to increase your cashflow
How to approach taxes as an entrepreneur?
- Find a CPA that has experience working with entrepreneurs
How to approach risk?
- Risk is actually really simple
- Risk value = probability of success x value of success
- The higher the risk value, the more worth the risk, compare that with the resources the risk requires
How to build a support system?
- The easiest way are people who want to live in a similar world as you do
- People who’s goals align with yours
- The easiest way to ascertain this is just to ask people
- You can also try to go to places that are included in your vision for what type of world you want to live in
How to handle rejection?
- Repair the ways in which you rejected yourself
How to approach financial risk in a smart way?
- Get good at estimating risk value and investment
- If the risk value is $100,000, and the investment is $90,000 then the risk is likely worth it
- If the risk value is $100,000 and the investment is $10,000 then the risk is definitely worth it
How to rebuild from nothing?
- Know your strengths
- Know what people want
- Sell yourself
How to deal with people looking down on you?
- Repair the ways other people have looked down on your in the past
How to get hired/search for a job?
- Think about the jobs that will be easiest for you to get
- Based on the interviews and discussions, adjust closer to what makes you happy
How to turn off work?
- Create a viable plan for when pending work will be addressed
- Write down the plan and execute when you are ready
How to minimize work effort/stress/inefficiency?
- Focus on creating clarity at all times on what is expected and when
- Set boundaries around respect and time
- Make sure that the goals are specific and small enough to complete one at a time
How to process awkwardness?
- Find reasons why awkwardness is a good thing
What are different selling methods?
- Relationships sales – they like you
- Technical sales – they like the technology
- Pressure sales – they don’t want to say no
- Trust sales – they trust you
How to sell in a way that I feel myself?
- Trust sales + technical sales sounds most like me
How to gain from/work with/ benefit from the American system?
- Sell to the rich
- Hire people who are good at what they do
- Outsource tedious stuff to other countries or AI
How can I be more resilient?
- Spend time getting up when you fall
- Specifically focus time and effort on healing from painful experiences
Core Beliefs 3
Byjack
Today I was talking to someone who thought that reprogramming your core beliefs and I’ve given this some thought.
- It can be cringe if it isn’t genuine (forcing yourself to believe something that isn’t true)
- It isn’t actually meant to be mindless affirmations but rather trying to get your mind to see a more balanced version of the truth.
- Ex: We are bad and our emotions do push other people away sometimes. But it’s not all the time. When you have a core wound, it’s something you are deeply afraid of and look for evidence for instead of looking at things clearly.
- For example, if you believe you aren’t attractive, if ten people say you look good, and one person says you are ugly, you will believe the ten people are lying and the one person is telling the truth without being rational or logical about it. It doesn’t mean you aren’t ugly to some people, it just means it’s not as simple as you think it is.
- If you successfully reprogram, you will take negative things less personally.
- Reprogramming your subconscious means countering your habits of looking for evidence for the opposite of what you believe so you can see the fuller picture.
- It can also be cringe if it is very surface level (mindlessness listing out five things)
- Perhaps I want to take a more artistic approach and revisit different memories that contrasts against my core beliefs that takes me back to the feelings
Today I’ll do a little poem.
Zubats
It was nighttime in the art studios
Brandon’s smiling face
Shiny in the lights from above
He told me that the zubats were talking
And that he asked
Jack or Michael
Jack of course
He told me that they said
Even though
They thought
I was a bit too arrogant
Profit in Peace 11: Moving On???
Byjack
Ok, I decided something weird that I’m not sure is going to work yet.
I decided that I’m going to keep this challenge going on forever and we will have different objective driving it constantly. It will be a sort of daily journal where I get to focus on Profit in Peace, finding my ikigai, tapping into my coaching energy, feeling into my body, working on my challenges, and discovering that the world is a magical place.
It will continue to be labeled like the other challenges, but it is different in the sense that it doesn’t have a specific end date. The end date might be just when this mentality, thinking of this as a Profit in Peace no longer serves me. Which might be never.
You know in a way this should be called Blog Post. Because it is the most blog post of blog posts. The sole purpose of these posts is literally to work on my life through my blog. But “Blog Post” just doesn’t evoke what I need for it to evoke, so we ain’t doing it.
So what is the focus for today?
Today we have a similar bent to yesterday but a little more focused on gaming. In no particular order, I want to:
- Play lots of valorant and create poems about how I feel about dropping to gold 1 and STILL losing
- Cook lots of food, be creative and have fun eating
- Watching another 20 minutes of the VOD review
- Work on my knee challenge
- Go for a run
Yesterday, I went for a short run.
Here is a poem about it:
Tingling in My Back
That’s the feeling when I push myself
My knees not ready for the impact
I want to massage my stomach and back
I’m aware of others watching
I wonder if Alice would be embarrassed of me
I want people to like me
Especially the girls
I think about how I learned to control what other’s thought of me
And that’s when everything went to a place
Shaky and scary
I remind myself
What others feel
Is out of my control
I’m proud of my innovative knee exercises
They make my prickly knees
Feel warm and supple again
I just came back from my most recent run. Today I focused on processing the anxiety being surrounded by everyone’s opinions of me. I realized a couple of things.
Dr Bea Mackay
She told me an exercise
The same one
Every session
Breath in breath out
I realized
It isn’t about other people
They never mattered
Neither did their opinions
I’m them
As a trigger for my pain
The sharp inhale
To take the pain
The release of the exhale
Filling me with warmth
From head to toe
The point was never to win their approval
It was to feel my pain
It is so interesting how Dr. Bea Mackay’s exercises are so similar to Wim Hoff’s. And Wim Hoff’s exercises are about enduring and thriving in pain too, just his are about cold and her’s are about emotions. No wonder so many people talk about the Wim Hoff method bringing them relief from chronic anxiety.
Workpost 16: Risk and Challenge
Byjack
So I’m pretty frustrated because this is the second time I am writing this blog post. The first time I wrote this blog post, the post was bugging out and didn’t save properly.
Not too happy about that.
In the spirit of growth, I am going to let go of that blog post and focus on creating an entirely new one without losing the essence of what I wanted to say in the first one I wrote.
This morning I was feeling really stressed out and I was really enjoying my walk. I feel like this whole questions meditations thing has really worked out. I really like journaling at night, and walking during the day. Before when I was forcing myself to go outside because I felt like I had to, I kinda hated it. It was nice once I got outside, but before then it was pretty awful.
Now, since I know I’m going use the time to meditate on some of the questions I have in my heart, I feel really excited and motivated to go outside in the morning.
Here are the main things I was stressed out about this morning:
- My career, didn’t know where I was going next
- My medical bills, spent 8k on a new medical device, hundreds more for my GI doctor
- My financial issues, I spent 700 more than I made yesterday
- My coaching career, still not anywhere close to making enough money to be self sufficient
- I could move back home, but then I’m worried about having a place for my girlfriend to visit me
And through my amazing short 20 minute walk, here are the answers I got:
- Acknowledge that you are taking a huge risk by paying 1,700 per month on rent with very little income and building coaching business from 0
- Risk is not a bad thing, it is an incredible catalyst for growth
- Risk means, now is the time to shine. Focus on the few things that matter most
- Building an really strong foundation of health, a very strong structure for getting stuff done
- Changing the lives of my current coaching clients
- Work slowly towards my career in AI
- It’s ok to invest money in the medical bills because they directly help with my foundational health goal. Double down on the investment by focusing a lot on sleep and digestion.
- Let go of all other goals and distractions because now is go time. Just work on small projects or really gradual work.
Workpost 31: On an Adventure
Byjack
I feel like I’m on an adventure, even though I am only 40 minutes away from my apartment in Austin. I am in the city of Leander, northwest of Austin and I’m feeling a bit tired but excited about the solar eclipse today.
I’m in the library and I feel at home but also lonely. I think there is something about being in close proximity to books that remind me of my childhood and about daydreaming and reading about people’s lives and wanting to find close friends and conquer the world.
I feel lonely, and I wish it was easier to connect with others.
The library reminds me of elementary school when everything was pretty simple. If you wanted to be friends with people, you just became friends with them.
I’m feeling really tired because I didn’t go to bed very early last night. I also think the sleeping appliance and my sleep mask are not things I’m used to sleeping with so I don’t sleep as well with them.
I’m focusing on recentering on my house, and that anything is possible in my house.
Today there is a solar eclipse, and I’m excited for that. Maybe I will read a book really quick, then get some work done and drive over to watch the eclipse from this really cool park nearby.
Like A Dried Pizza
Byjack
Like A Dried Pizza
There is a dried pizza on my table
The last piece that I didn’t eat yesterday
It’s dry and cold
I feel I know what the pizza feels like
Last night
I didn’t sleep
All night
Tossing turning
Hoping the audiobook was loud enough
To tune out my thoughts
I felt so sure
In my stomach
That this was the end of the road for us
She isn’t the right one for me
I don’t know how I knew
But I knew it was over
I asked her to reassure me
And I felt her warmth
Like a blanket for a shivering man
I love her so much
I think about how vulnerable she is with me
I know she’s ready to stay with me forever
You don’t meet someone like that every day
The sadness in me
For once isn’t about comparison
It isn’t about comparing her with someone else
It’s just telling me
I can’t be with her any longer
I can’t keep up this act
I feel tired
So tired of explaining myself
Of feeling misunderstood
Yet
I don’t know
Her devotion feels like the cure for all pain
What is a drop of discomfort
For a lifetime of love?