Manipulators Are The Ones Who Are Weak

There are many different mentalities that can offer deeper insight, faster learning and a deeper connection to the present moment. 

My favorite mentalities are:

• Meditative/Let It Come Mentality
  • Be patient
  • Don’t do anything
  • The right answer will be clear if you keep feeling and noticing what comes up
  • Good for staying in the moment and being yourself
• Self Reflection/Feedback Loop (learning) Mentality
  • Look for ways to observe yourself by recording yourself somehow
  • Use the objective, nonjudemental self observation to get clarity on where to improve
  • Good for rapid learning
• Process Emotions Mentality
  • The action you focus on is feeling
  • Use breathing and physical activity to feel as strongly as possible
  • Very good for emotional growth

However, I recently found a new mentality that actually helps with areas of life that I had trouble with recently. I noticed in rapid active situations like social situations (parties), or sports, or dance or singing overthinking can be a major issue. Using the meditative mentality and or the processing emotions mentality is helpful but ultimately keeps you in your head. Staying in your head isn’t always a good thing because it can actually make it very hard for you to focus on the present moment (even though those exercises usually help you reconnect with the moment). 

I’m not entirely sure where this idea came from, but I think it came from daygaming (approaching girls irl). I started using it in gaming then dance and singing practice (all things where being in the present moment is part of the experience).

I call it the “Go For It” Mentality. Basically, you imagine what you want to do (the perfect action) and then just try going for it.

A couple of major points:

• Everything is seen as practice (and is very useful when practicing in the moment type skills like language, singing, dance, sports etc where thinking is going to get in your way and you want to focus your instincts).
• Repetition is the goal since it is practice, nothing is seen as the final end all be all.
• As you keep repeating, you adjust every single time until it feels more and more right. This is one way that you can start bringing in the other tools and mindsets in order to have a really beautiful time.